If you’re using pro-con lists to make big decisions, it’s no wonder you’re stuck. Using them is a little like trying to take out someone’s tonsils with hernia instruments.

Read on for what you should be doing instead!

Ever felt that nagging sensation that it's time for a career change, even when everything looks perfect on paper? Your instincts aren't wrong; they're backed by neuroscience.

Through the lens of Construal Level Theory, this blog post dive into why career transitions feel so impossibly difficult: your brain literally processes near-term and long-term futures in fundamentally different ways.

Drawing from both cutting-edge psychological research and real-world emergency medicine experiences, you'll discover why traditional decision-making tools fail during career transitions, and how to transform this cognitive tension into your greatest advantage.

Learn the Temporal Distance Mapping technique - a framework that bridges the gap between abstract career aspirations and concrete next steps. Whether you're contemplating a bold career pivot or seeking to understand your decision paralysis, this evidence-based guide transforms complex neuroscience into actionable insights.

Stop fighting your brain's natural wiring and start using it to make career decisions with unprecedented clarity and confidence.

A simple, seven-step framework I’ve developed to do make the hardest decisions in life with confidence. It comes from the principles of decision science, a field I’ve spent all my research life in.

And it’s deeply personal: I’ve used it myself to make literally hundreds of life decisions—from jobs to relationships to moving to new cities.

My hands look steady. They place each suture where it’s supposed to go. They thankfully don’t betray me when the scrub nurse puts scissors in them. 

Inside, my chest is crushed in a vice. My breathing is shallow. And my brain roils worse than a ship in the Bay of Biscay.

That day, my patient’s face wide open on the operating table in front of me, I learned to love fear, failure, and anxiety.

You feeling the holiday overwhelm yet?

Yeah. Me too.

It gets worse at the holidays, that nagging sensation that important tasks are slipping through the cracks... because your mind is so dang full of unfinished business.

The emails. The work tasks. The holiday shopping. Everything you've got to get done before the new year!

Let’s dig into the fascinating neuroscience behind this—and how to use it to hack your own mental performance

I know exactly when I ruined my life.

A touch overdramatic, yeah, but stick with me, because this story — about a single moment in Singapore 27 years ago — might also explain why you’re stuck in a job you hate, why you’re still living in a city that doesn’t set your soul on fire, or why you haven’t started that business or written that book or launched that podcast.

You made six choices today that weren’t even yours. Someone else pulled the strings, and you didn’t even know it.

Dating apps suck. You know it, we all know it. Today, we’re gonna talk about why they do—and what that has to do with making big life decisions. 

Learn to use the most powerful decision-making tool in the doctor’s arsenal, in just 20 minutes

About 8 years ago, I first stepped on the American Ninja Warrior course. An obsession was born, one that lasted until a bad knee injury (and, let’s be honest, becoming more than twice as old as the most successful competitors) took me out of competition.

Getting into ninja warrior was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. The sport pits you against obstacles that are three times your size, suspended sixteen feet above a shallow pool that’s the only safety net you have.

It was risky as heck.

And it changed my life.

After I lost my 20-year-old cat, Max, a friend of mine—someone who cares deeply for me, despite how callous this next line might sound—said,

This is why I never want pets. Getting a pet always means you’re automatically signing up for grief.

In this week’s post, I explore that line—why it makes sense, why we’re so averse to loss.

And why that leads to worse decisions

I spent so many years thinking I was the problem, thinking that struggling to make decisions was because there was something wrong with me. I was wrong...